We’ve all been in that place where we have a pretty good idea of what must be done but we just can’t do it. We know it’s the right thing to do, but we just can’t act, WE’RE STUCK! We mull it over and over in our head yet still don’t do anything about it.
We wait… and wait… and wait for life to come along and work it all out for us, then accept whatever the outcome is.
There are times in life when this approach might be okay but most of the time we just don’t have the courage to make a firm, concrete decision one way or the other.
At the end of the day, it all boils down to one thing… COURAGE! Well, i know that was the case for me anyway.
I’ve taken a good look at myself at times when i’ve found it difficult to decide what best to do and my overall conclusion was that, even when it was abundantly clear that taking action is for the greater good, fear still stopped me from acting of my own free will.
I just looked at the “possible” consequences and couldn’t bear to move forward. “I can’t stay where I am” i thought to myself, “i must just DO IT!” but hoping that there would be more clarity in my mind that would force me to take action. Unfortunately, clarity rarely comes in these situations.
Eventually, when i finally did act and TOOK POSITIVE ACTION, a lot more damage had already been done than was necessary… a psychological damage that could have been avoided if I only had the courage to act sooner.
But what if you rush into a decision that you later come to regret, i hear you ask? Wouldn’t it be better to consider things fully before you do something stupid? Obviously, that’s correct but in my opinion, after considering everything carefully and being 100% sure it’s something you want to do, then i say “Go for it!” Just make a FINAL DECISION one way or the other and DO IT!
The trouble is, most people take far to long to make a decision of any kind and end up in a frustrating no mans land of wanting to do something but being so paralysed by fear and the negative voices in their head, that no decision ever get’s made and their lives continue in the same way they always have.
Making decisions is a KEY activity in taking control of your own life. It’s a skill in itself and some people seem to have the ability to do it better than others. For these people, it seems to be an innate ability but for others, it requires development and constant practice. You have to flex those “decision-making” muscles on a regular basis and be ready when a situation arises because you can’t afford to WAIT AROUND for things to happen, you have to CONFRONT YOUR FEAR… the fear of failure and of missed opportunities.
As well as developing the ability to act when the situation demands it, there is also a more “passive” resource in all of this, ACCEPTANCE!. When you can learn to accept life, then you are able to do more with it without being paralysed by fear. Think about it, you CAN’T control everything that goes on in the world or in your own life.
You can’t see or predict the future and you will definitely make mistakes but whatever they are, no matter how big or small, you can recover from them and move on. IF you accept all of this, you’re well on your way to being able to make those tough decisions in life that come around every so often.
Acceptance is not so difficult and there are no guarantees in life (generally speaking). You might have made a mistake doing something or in a decision you’ve made, but at least you had the courage to choose which path you took. Who’s to say anyway, you wouldn’t have been struck by lightning if you had taken the other path. You just can’t know that it would have been better if you hadn’t acted as you did.
Whatever the situation or outcome of a decision, ACCEPT IT for what it is and move on. By accepting your decisions, good or bad, it will give you an increased amount of confidence to know that you took the bull by the horns, made a decision and were able to accept that decision no matter what. Trust me, with this kind of confidence you’re already half way to your ultimate destination.
So step up to the plate, make a decision and DON’T be a victim of circumstance. You can do so much more in life knowing that YOU alone are responsible for the choices you make moving forward and ACCEPTING those choices no matter what.
Till next time…